Finding Love

LOVE is the most beautiful feeling/ emotion which everyone is continuously seeking from others (family, relatives, friends and the society at large). According to Wikipedia, ancient Greek philosophers identified six forms of love, which are, familial love, friendly love, romantic love, self love, guest love and divine love. Further, there are several methodologies and ways in which love could be classified and studied.

Love is expressed in different forms such as care, respect, gifts, time and so on. However, how much love makes one content differs from person to person. Also, the real measure of love is different for everyone. For example, a mother may be showing love for her child in the form of care and support. However, the child may want the mother to do something else to express her love for the child. One person may want more time from his/her spouse as an expression of love whereas another person may want his/her spouse to do something else. Some people are lucky to receive love being expressed for them by many people whereas there are people who continuously strive to receive love from even one person. Therefore, it is not unusual for some to even find love from their work or from an activity or thing.

It is very important to understand that just because a person is in some relationship with another, it is not 100% guaranteed that he/she will receive love from that person. In reality, people even spend their whole lives in finding love from wrong things or people (despite being connected together for whatsoever reason) but do not identify this fact.

The truth about love is - No matter what you do or how much you try to control things, the love that you are seeking from others will never be permanent and satisfying. Being a human, one feels sad when the love that a person was seeking from another is no longer available. However, as the life moves on, the person will find other things/ places/ people for this love. The life cycle has been and will continue forever in this manner.

Sthitapragya Diaries encourages its readers to perform an exercise by sitting calmly with a paper and a pen and making a list of all the things and people who express love for you and make you feel loved. Once you have identified this list, then strike off all the people/ things that may not stay forever due to any reason. Is there anything remaining on your list now? Things for sure cannot be permanent and relying on people for everlasting love is not practical as circumstances may change or be affected or the person may no longer be there to express love for you.

So the best methodology recommended to be adopted by every human being in his/her journey for seeking/ finding love is to:

1. Cherish life (whether with or without any love expressed for you by your family, relatives, friends, etc) with full contentment as you can never force anyone to express love for you specially in the way you like it; and

2. Start connecting with your soul (who you really are and who has permanent existence) for finding everlasting love. This is a very easy process with hardly anything required and can be done anywhere and anytime (refer internet to learn more about different ways for connecting with your soul and its benefits).